What Expectant Mothers Should Consider When Choosing an Adoptive Family
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How Are Adoptive Parents Chosen? What Birth Mothers Need to Know…
First things first… You have the right to choose who will adopt your baby. And you also have the right not to choose. But most importantly you are in control. If you don’t want to choose, our supportive adoption caseworkers can choose for you. There are many loving families looking to adopt for many different reasons. Potential adoptive parents must go through a pre-approval process that includes rigorous background checks to ensure they are suitable to adopt. These checks includes their background and lifestyle, their finances, and the safety of their home. If you are pregnant and considering adoption, A Birthmother’s Choice is here to support and guide you through the process.
What Should I Look For in an Adoptive Family?
Many people do not realize the options you have with adoption in today’s world. Birth mothers have control over the adoption process every step of the way. One of the big decisions she will make in this journey is selecting the adoptive family. There are several things to consider and the options can feel overwhelming but the team at A Birthmother’s Choice is here to help at ever step. We have gathered these considerations into 3 groups; adoptive family dynamics, adoptive family values and adoption preference.
Top Three Adoptive Family Considerations for Birth Mothers
Adoptive parents are just as unique as the expectant mother selecting them. Prospective adoptive parents go through a pre approval process that includes rigorous background checks to ensure they are suitable to adopt a child. This background check includes their background and lifestyle, their finances, and the safety of their home. Birth mothers should consider what kind of lifestyle they want for their child. A good adoptive parent is one that matches your preferences while providing love and support for your child. Consider these 3 main things when choosing an adoptive family:
1. Adoptive Family Dynamics
Family dynamics will play a large role in your child’s day to day life. Are you looking for a family that has other children? Or a family where this is their first or only child? Is the age of the adoptive parents important to you? How do you feel about the prospective families’ personalities? Family dynamics speaks to a wide variety of factors including family size, personality, parenting styles, relationships with extended family and more.
A birth mother should ask herself:
- Do I want my child to have siblings? If so does their age difference matter?
- How big of a family would I prefer for my child? Large family or small family? Do I want my child to have a lot of extended family?
- If the prospective parents already have children, do I like their current parenting style?
- Do I have a preference for a couple or a single parent? Is the relationship between the two parents important to me?
2. Adoptive Family Values
Family values will also play an important role in this child’s life. A family’s values can be influenced by culture, family history, hobbies & lifestyle, religion and more. Some of this information will be available based on the background checks prospective parents have undergone.
A birth mother should ask herself:
- Is cultural background important to me?
- Do I have a preference on the religion my child will be raised in?
- Are there hobbies & lifestyle choices that I prefer or want to avoid for my child?
- Is the family history of the adoptive parents important to me? How were they raised and how will they raise my child?
3. Adoptive Family Adoption Preference
Do you have a strong preference on adoption type? Are you open to any adoption type if the adoptive parents and family are a perfect match for you? Birth mothers and prospective parents will need to agree on the type of adoption. There are a few different types of adoption you can pick from including; open, closed or a hybrid of the two.
- What level of contact with the child is important to me?
- Do I want in-person contact, or just updates
- Do I want to keep in touch with the adoptive parents directly, or through the agency?
If you are in a bad situation and pregnant and considering adoption please contact us anytime for help. We are here for you and want to answer your questions about adoption and provide you with the support you need. And don’t worry, your talks with us will be kept confidential.
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